Barefoot by the Sea: Girl Chat

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Girl Chat

I have to admit, every aspect of Motherhood has it's rewards and challenges.  It seems like just when I think I've mastered it, I'm thrown a bit of a curve ball. This is the case when it comes to raising my daughters, ages 11 and 7.  If I'm being honest, I didn't ever really stop and think what those teenage years could entail.  I remember people stopping me in the grocery store, at the park, wherever they felt it was fair game, commenting on my girls and letting me know that I would be "in for it" as time went on.  I never really understood what they were trying to say, about sisters and the mother/daughter relationship. It's not the same for everybody, right?  How can people make these generalizations when they doing know my girls or me for that matter?  

And the years rolled on...

It was a challenge to keep my then 5 year old quiet during my 1 year old's nap-time.  How would I deal with getting to volunteering at her school and being home with my baby?  Would my oldest suffer from not doing enough sports or too many activities?  Yet somehow, we managed.  

the years kept passing...

Soon, I had a 7 year old and a 3 year old.  They were the best of friends. Playful, giddy.  A wonderful and helpful big sister and a loving little sister. Friends till the end.  Yet people loved to tell me how sisters fight and how they used to have "knock down, drag down fights with their own siblings".  Not my kids, I would say to myself.  

and then I started to see that some of the things people suggested would happen, happened!  Sibling rivalry, arguments...they snuck in ever so slowly but soon became part of our life.  All those things the naysayers had said were RIGHT!  Or were they?  

Recently, I've remembered that life is an adjustment.  Like I mentioned in the beginning of the year, it seems like we are always analyzing, adjusting, getting accustomed to new routines, fresh perspectives and new challenges.  The adjusting happens with a new school year and when we pick up a new activity and it also happens when our children growing up.  Kids change.  Not just girls but girls AND boys.  They grow up but it takes awhile for it all to happen.  It takes time for them to find their way. I feel privileged to be the one who gets to guide my girls through thick and thin, good times and bad.  Even when there are trying times. Even when they're in bad moods and yes, even when they are fighting in that way sisters fight. 

I take pride in the fact that they do still have that amazing bond, that closeness, the love for one another that two sisters can share.  It's a blessing.  

12 comments:

  1. I love to see the relationships my kids are all developing with one another. It is a joy to watch them grow and help them become the best person they can be! I remember all the fighting that my brother and I did growing up, and we are very close now, so I feel good about the future :-)

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    1. I agree, it's been amazing to watch such a strong bond get even stronger over the years! Siblings share something with one another that no one else does and that's so special!

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  2. You are fortunate they are getting along so well. My kids fight constantly but the times they do get along melt my heart. They come up with these cute little make believe games to play and I wish they would do that more often.

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    1. It's not ALL roses Stacy but it's a pretty good life! I can't complain too much ;)

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  3. My girls are almost 6 years apart so I've really seen their bond grow as the oldest went away to college. They are more like peers now and have a great relationship. They do fake fight when they are both home and it drives me bonkers! It's that adjustment to living in the same house again and lots of time together. Every stage has it's ups and downs.

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    1. Mine are 4 years apart and I've enjoyed their bond. I'm excited to hear that your girls have gotten closer over the years as well!

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  4. I love hearing about that bond especially now that I have sisters in our family. All kids fight whether girls or boys. I think the only case where you may get out of it is if they are completely spread apart in age. Then there is probably not as much bickering, but there isn't really much of a friendship either.

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    1. I couldn't agree more! I think and open, strong and honest relationship includes good AND bad! Sometime's we have hard times but others...amazing ones!

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  5. Hello Jessica,
    My boys are two years apart. People would ask us if they were twins as well. :-)
    My oldest had a very good friend all of his school years. At age 12 we changed schools. His friend took it very personally. This friend was a girl. At age 12 she was so mean to him and wrote him two nasty letters about changing schools. He tried to talk to her, they were on a soccer team together that summer. She would have nothing to do with him. His brother was there for him (me and my husband too) But it was so awful to watch. I tried my best to help in the situation. Now he is 15 and the relationship with his brother is so dear and special.
    They are best friends at age 15 and 13. I do hope for it to continue. They always have gotten along so well, and consider each other best friends. They confide in each other and support each other.

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    1. I love that they have one another and are so very close. That amazing bond is something only siblings have!

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